From 1973 to 1990, Robert Oscar Lopez was raised by two lesbians. In the most recent issue of Public Discourse, published by the Witherspoon Institute, located in Princeton, New Jersey, Lopez tells his story and relates it to the recent study on the adult children of same-sex parents by Mark Regnerus.
Forty-one years I’d lived, and nobody -- least of all gay activists -- had wanted me to speak honestly about the complicated gay threads of my life. If for no other reason than this, Mark Regnerus deserves tremendous credit -- and the gay community ought to be crediting him rather than trying to silence him. . . .
So why the code of silence from LGBT leaders? I can only speculate from where I’m sitting. I cherish my mother’s memory, but I don’t mince words when talking about how hard it was to grow up in a gay household. Earlier studies examined children still living with their gay parents, so the kids were not at liberty to speak, governed as all children are by filial piety, guilt, and fear of losing their allowances. For trying to speak honestly, I’ve been squelched, literally, for decades.
In his conclusion, Lopez writes, "The children of same-sex couples have a tough road ahead of them -- I know, because I have been there."